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Did your depressed kid inherit trauma from your family tree?

When the past is forgotten, it comes back to haunt us. Yet we don't have to repeat that as we discover it. We might smash disruptive trends. Often, as parents see a kid suffering, they wonder if raising a child has done anything wrong. Unknowingly, any tragedy may have passed away, but by helping to discover a bond to the past, they may change it.

I'm asking parents to try to sort on their issues so they don't get passed on. For example, when a child is nervous, it could be that the adult is anxious. Children also disclose to parents what their parents concealed years before.

Generally, we go back to three centuries of family history to understand the process underlying trauma trends. That suggests that the family tree needs to be shaken by parents to see what comes out. Check for family secrets that have been glossed over or that are concealed. You might ask relatives to help, suggesting that the significant moments in the history of the family need to be understood. Did his first wife abandon Grandpa? It will set up a dynamic with a trauma that has never healed if he hurt her by leaving. Generations later, we can see that in a young adult who can't develop enduring romantic relationships.

To research family history I recommend that you draw a "genogram." How's that done?

Create a family tree, and write down the trauma or the complicated destinies faced by any member of the family. The genogram presents you with a visual and concrete experience of the stressful events in your family, which allows the associations between these events and the worries and anxieties you or your child have encountered easier to grasp.

Thus, once a connection has been made to the past, we need to create a new perspective and exercise the experience by using visualizations, interactions, physical experiences, and calming words. We take focus away from the trauma coping centers of the brain by doing such so that our minds can alter. We should interrupt the generational family trauma loop.

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